ADHD Late to Know

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Podcast by Holly Santu

ADHD Late to Know

ADHD Late to Know is a podcast for adults with late-diagnosed ADHD, Autism & AuDHD — and for the people with neurodivergent loved ones and want to understand them better. I’m Holly Santu. Diagnosed with ADHD at 30, with Autism now part of that picture too, I spent years feeling too much for the world — and like the world was too much for me too. You’re not behind. You’re just late to know.

Latest episodes

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22 February 2026

13 Travel with ADHD & Autism - The Emotional Tightrope of Being Out of Routine

Travel can feel exciting… and completely destabilising when you have ADHD, autism, or AuDHD.

In this episode of ADHD Late to Know, I share my real-time experience travelling for work (Texas) and for joy (South Korea & Japan) — navigating time zones, cancelled flights, sensory overload, hunger crashes, rage responses, demand avoidance, and nervous system regulation.

We explore:

  • Why travel disrupts ADHD and autistic regulation
  • Sensory stagnation and feeling “trapped”
  • Low blood sugar & emotional reactivity
  • Rejection sensitivity and travel rage
  • The nuance of ADHD impulsivity vs autistic rigidity
  • Protecting energy while still showing up
  • How to enjoy iconic experiences (like Shibuya Crossing) without overwhelming your nervous system

I also share practical strategies that helped:

  • Snack planning & predictable meal anchors
  • Buying yourself 30–60 seconds to reduce reactive anger
  • “What’s your number?” emotional check-ins
  • Intentional social boundaries
  • Observing instead of immersing
  • Choosing experiences aligned with your actual joy

If you struggle with travel anxiety, ADHD overwhelm, autistic burnout, or routine disruption — this episode will help you feel less alone and more equipped.

Because growth isn’t avoiding hard things.

It’s learning how to meet them differently

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28 January 2026

12 ADHD & Autism Tax: The Hidden Cost on Health, Energy & Money

Being neurodivergent comes with hidden costs — not just emotionally, but to our energy, health, finances, and long-term wellbeing.

In this episode of ADHD Late to Know, I explore the tax of ADHD and Autism from an AuDHD adult perspective: how chronic stress, masking, nervous system overload, and lack of support quietly add up — and what we can do to protect ourselves.

We talk about:

  • Research linking ADHD and autism to poorer health outcomes and reduced life expectancy
  • Why burnout and exhaustion aren’t personal failures — they’re systemic
  • The financial tax of neurodivergence: impulse spending, forgotten subscriptions, convenience costs
  • Protecting energy through pacing, boundaries, and safer socialising
  • Intentional thinking about your future self — wanting to feel nourished, rested, and steadily working toward what matters
  • Practical systems that lower the tax without shame or perfectionism

This episode is about awareness, self-advocacy, and building a life that costs you less to live — and gives you more back.

For adults with ADHD, autism, AuDHD — and those who want to understand and support them better.

Show Notes (Key Resources)

  • Cambridge University (2025), British Journal of Psychiatry — ADHD & long-term health outcomes
  • National Autistic Society (UK) — Autism, wellbeing & life expectancy
  • Tools discussed: energy budgeting, safe social plans, future-self thinking, payday money pots, subscription audits

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15 January 2026

11 ADHD Coaching... So Life Isn't Always on Hard Mode

In this episode of ADHD Late to Know, Holly is joined by Ria from Ri-Align Coaching, an ADHD-specialist coach supporting ambitious, high-achieving adults who feel overwhelmed, burnt out, or stuck despite their capability.

Ria shares her powerful late-diagnosis journey — from years of feeling like life was on “hard mode” to finding clarity through ADHD understanding and building a career aligned with her strengths. Together, Holly and Ria explore what late-identified ADHD and AuDHD can really look like in adulthood, including burnout, emotional dysregulation, masking, people-pleasing, rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD), and self-doubt.

This conversation gently reframes ADHD away from constant self-fixing and towards self-trust, nervous system awareness, and working with your brain instead of against it. Ria also explains how ADHD-informed coaching helps clients rediscover their strengths, rebuild confidence, and move forward in a more sustainable way — especially when traditional routes haven’t worked.

The episode also covers:

  • Why so many ADHD adults feel “capable but exhausted”
  • The impact of lifelong micro-criticisms and masking
  • How strengths can become saboteurs without boundaries
  • The role of coaching in late diagnosis and identity rebuilding
  • ADHD support at work, reasonable adjustments, and Access to Work
  • Why chemistry and safety matter so much in coaching relationships
  • The “penny-drop” moments that change everything for Ria’s clients

If you’re late to understanding your ADHD, questioning your neurodivergence, or learning how to build a life you feel proud of, this episode will help you feel seen, validated, and less alone.

🔗 Find Ria:

Website: ri-align.co.uk

Instagram: @rialigncoaching

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11 January 2026

10 Priorities Over Pressure: A Neurodivergent Reset for 2026

This episode is a neurodivergent reset for 2026. I reflect on what I’m letting go of from 2025 — pressure, masking, people-pleasing — and what I’m choosing instead: priorities, nervous system safety, and living more unmasked with ADHD and autism.

I share how understanding my brain has changed how I set intentions, manage energy, and move through hard moments with more compassion and clarity.

If you’re navigating a late ADHD or autism diagnosis — or supporting someone who is — this episode offers reflection, practical reframes, and a grounded way to move into the new year without abandoning yourself.

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04 January 2026

09 New Year, Same Me: ADHD, Autism & Sharing the Invisible Piece

What happens when you finally get an ADHD or autism diagnosis — and then have to explain it to the people who’ve known you your whole life?

In this special New Year episode of Late to Know, I’m joined by my first-ever guests — Amy, diagnosed with ADHD, and Rhi, diagnosed with autism — as we reflect on late diagnosis, misdiagnosis, and the emotional work of helping others understand the parts of us they couldn’t see.

Together, we talk openly about:

  • Being treated for anxiety and depression when ADHD or autism was the missing piece
  • The relief and fear that comes with late diagnosis
  • Masking, shame, and feeling like a fraud when you finally tell people the truth
  • How it can be invalidating when loved ones sometimes respond with “but everyone feels like that”
  • Letting go of self-blame and unrealistic expectations as we head into a new year
  • Learning to set boundaries without believing you’re a “bad friend”
  • Navigating relationships, work, and feedback when your brain struggles to feel “finished”

This episode is for adults navigating the early stages of ADHD or autism diagnosis — and for partners, friends, and family who want to understand their neurodivergent loved ones better.

New year. Same me. Just with more clarity, compassion, and language for what’s always been there.

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23 December 2025

08 Neurodivergent at Christmas: ADHD, Autism & Festive Overwhelm

Christmas can be joyful — and overwhelming.

In this episode of Late to Know, we explore what the festive season can feel like for adults with ADHD and autism (AuDHD), and why Christmas often amplifies overwhelm, sensory stress, emotional exhaustion, and people-pleasing.

This episode also marks a gentle shift for the podcast — now focused on adults with ADHD, after hearing from men and women alike who recognise themselves in these experiences.

Whether you’re neurodivergent or you love someone who is, this episode offers insight into:

  • Why Christmas is especially challenging for ADHD & autistic nervous systems
  • The most common festive stressors reported by neurodivergent adults
  • How sensory overload, decision fatigue, & emotional pressure show up
  • Personal reflections and reminders to help move through the season with more compassion
  • Research-backed guidance to reduce overwhelm and protect energy
  • Practical ways neurotypical partners, family, and friends can better understand and support their loved ones

This episode isn’t about doing Christmas “right” — it’s about understanding different nervous systems and creating a season that works better for everyone.

🎧 If the holidays feel like too much, you’re not alone — and understanding can change everything.

SHOW NOTES & RESOURCES

ADHD, Autism & the Festive Season

Executive Function, Decision Fatigue & Overwhelm

🌻 Advocacy & Invisible Disabilities

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